There is a statistic out there that the majority of Americans are starting to support same sex marriage. What the media won’t tell you is the majority of Americans do not support the idea of redefining marriage.
I had lunch with a friend a few months ago and she mentioned that she didn’t care about two dudes or two gals wanting to get married. “It’s none of my business” she stated. Then I asked if she thought it was OK that we as a country start teaching young children in school that marriage must include two men, two women, a man and woman? Her response was marriage shouldn’t matter to children at a young age and that’s where we agreed. I noticed quickly that her tone changed and now it was becoming her business. The church I attend (Cedar Park) conducted a poll that showed my friend is not alone. Most individuals in the state of Washington do not want to redefine marriage.
I’ll save the gay marriage debate for another blog. People like me are in a tough position. We are blasted for our beliefs and others start throwing the hate accusations out. For those that know me they know there is not a hateful bone in my body.
What I would like to bring up though is the the Polygamy debate. More and more are coming out of the polygamy closet and want the new definition of marriage to include their lifestyle.
Here is a great article in the opinion section of CNN called: Gay Marriage then Group Marriage. Some of the points he shares include comments from bullies like Dan Savage and more.
Dan Savage encourages spouses to adopt “a more flexible attitude” about sex outside their marriage.
University of Calgary Professor Elizabeth Brake supports “minimal marriage,” in which people distribute whichever duties they choose, among however many partners, of whatever sex.
Author Michelangelo Signorile urges same-sex partners to “demand the right to marry not as a way of adhering to society’s moral codes but rather to debunk a myth and radically alter an archaic institution.” They should “fight for same-sex marriage and its benefits and then, once granted, redefine the institution of marriage completely, because the most subversive action lesbians and gay men can undertake … is to transform the notion of ‘family’ entirely.”
Since the unfair card is played so often with same sex couples, that same card can and is being played by our polygamists. In that article Robert P. George also writes…
In that case, every argument for recognizing two men’s bond as marital –equality, destigmatization, extending economic benefits — would also apply to recognizing romantic triads (“throuples,” as they are now known). Refusing such recognition would be unfair — a violation of equality — if commitment based on emotional companionship is what makes a marriage.
If Polygamy was legal we would start to see mega families created. I do think that polygamy families are probably different from that ‘open sex’ bully Dan Savage but the fact is still the same. If we redefine marriage for everyone that feels what they feel we will have no foundation of family.
Time magazine wrote an article on the rise of Polygamy in the US. (There is even a video of Joe Darger and his three wives). The first sentence in this article is: Polygamy is one of the few practices that still evoke genuine disgust in people.
So how do I answer my own What If question? I would have to say if Polygamy was legal in the US and if we truly redefine marriage the bully’s would come after people like me with a vengeance. They would do whatever they could to take my job and children. The ‘tolerant’ would become intolerant.
Dave Softy Mahler with Sports Talk Radio 950 said ‘we aren’t going to tolerate the intolerant on this football team.’ What did he just say? We aren’t going to tolerate? Isn’t ‘aren’t going to tolerate’ being intolerant?
Sheesh. So much for free thinking in this day and age.